10 things my mum taught me

 

This post is very special to me as it will be about the most important person in my life. My mum, of course. Feeling inspired by the upcoming celebrations of mums – Mother’s Day (Sunday 26! Don’t you dare forgetting!), I thought it’s a great chance to show appreciation for everything my mum managed to equip me with to face life challenges. I hope most of you are able to say the same thing about your mums, as I can say about mine – best in the world, undoubtedly. Usually, as a child you don’t appreciate it enough, but luckily, we grow older and wiser (well, most of us), and we start understanding the value of parent’s contribution on our personalities, confidence and life choices. I might not be perfect, but my mum certainly did a great job of teaching me how to be a good and strong woman.

I would like to share with you 10 of the most important things (among many, many more) that my mum taught my since I was a child. These lessons have helped me deal with many difficult situations. I hope it will make you think about your amazing mums and what you would like to thank them for.

  1. Positive energy! – Don’t let people with negative energy pull you down

    That’s such a significant lesson. Through many difficult days, my mum managed to keep her cool and stay the most positive person I know. It’s important to be mindful and aware of who we are letting into our lives, as other people can strongly influence our emotions. Of course this does not relate to our close friends/family having temporary issues they need our support on – do not separate yourself from them so easily! Negative energy comes from people who are lazy, have ‘nothing is possible’ attitude and prefer to moan than look for a solution.

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  2. Be strong – Happiness can be hard work

    No matter what happens – it’s important to remember we are all just humans and we have our weaknesses. We also have strengths which build the foundation for the life control. Our happiness depends on us and sometimes it requires hard work to be happy and to reach our goals through all the obstacles. However, that’s what forms our personalities and makes us valuable beings.

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  3. Appreciate your loved one’s passion

    We all have things we care about – passions, interests, hobbies. One of the things my mum was always keen on sharing is to be engaged and have genuine interest in our loved one’s passion. It might not be something we are into, but appreciating the diversity in people’s hobbies broadens our horizons and helps us to learn something new. It also shows our loved ones, we appreciate their personalities to the tiniest detail. You never know – you might get really into your boyfriend/girlfriend/best friend’s weird hobby, whatever it is!

  4. Follow your passion

    As much as we should appreciate other people’s passions – the most important should be our own. If you feel the desire to ride a bike, cook, do yoga, build plane models, dance flamenco – and you always want to come back to it and do it more – so be it! Make sure you nurture your interests and keep developing them, keep getting better at what you do. At the end of the day, our hobbies are something that makes us interesting and unique. They also build our confidence levels and help us be more social.

  5. Appreciate diversity

    In Poland, it is not always easy to be different. My mum was very consistent in teaching my why I should never discriminate against people who are in some way different than me, no matter if it’s a skin colour, sexual orientation, country of origin, language, looks etc. I am very grateful for that lesson, as I believe most forms of prejudice against other people come from our home/family environment. As kids, we tend to pick up the views of our parents/grandparents/uncles and not everyone is able to filter information they soak in. Remember to always keep yourself at distance to what others say and have reflections and mind of your own.

  6. Cook healthy

    My mum has always been an amazing cook and she’s been teaching me how to create amazing, healthy, home made meals. As a child, I wasn’t really paying too much attention, I was quite happy to eat something quick. Everything has changed now! I’m crazy about cooking and I phone my mum whenever I have trouble with making traditional polish dishes – which is a lot. Should have listened when I was a kid!

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  7. Work out

    My mum is super healthy, works out about 100 times a week, attends loads of different fitness classes and she spreads this fitness-freaky happiness wherever she goes! She definitely inspired me to take up my yoga classes in the first place – now I’ve been going 5 times a week for over 3 months and I can’t see myself stopping anytime soon!

  8. Remember to look after yourself

    This relates to beauty and fashion. My mum is one of the most beautiful and fashionable women I know. She has a very classy style and always leaves the house looking flawless. We tend to pay attention to detail at work or at home when cleaning/cooking, so why not to put effort to how we look like? At the end of the day, our appearance is something we, and people around us, deal with every day. Looking flawless, being healthy and focused on our bodies pays off with positive energy and confidence.

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  9. Be assertive

    Assertiveness is an important feature of any strong woman. We are lucky enough to be able to fight for our rights and appreciation of our work. Saying ‘no’ can be difficult sometimes, but it builds the strength of our personalities. We do not have to agree with everything just to please other people.

  10. Be independent

    This is a magic trick my mum has done over the years. She has never pushed me out of the nest herself. It all came to me naturally – I finished my high school, it was time to move on, started my university degree, got a bar job and slowly started my independent life. I have been financially independent since I was 19 and that has strengthen all of the above points and made me feel more confident about shaping my own life. She always had strong trust for my maturity and whenever I had issues, she would always be there to support me without judgement.

    I am currently waiting on my mum with her favourite sunflowers, little fruity cheesecakes and freshly made bed. Her flight is coming in to Glasgow in about 2 hours and I can’t wait to spend this weekend with her and my sister. It will be a great Mothers Day, which means I won’t have time to write this post then, so I decided to share it a bit ahead of time. Hope you will all have equally amazing weekend!

    I wanted to wish all the amazing mums out there a great Mothers Day!!

     

10 things you experience in your first office job

All of us who currently work in the office jobs – no matter if it’s 9am-5pm or 3pm-11pm or whatever time frame you’re on – had our first, awkward days. Doing anything for the first time is usually quite an experience – and I think first office job is an interesting one to look at, because most of us have been there, or will be there at some point.

I was one of the lucky individuals who always knew exactly what I wanted to do in my life as a job. Events industry has been on my list since my early days at high school (when I was around 15 y.o). I guess I was quite good at observing my natural skills set/personality traits and what made me happy and excited to form the conclusion of my ideal future job. And so I followed this goal since high school – passed my exams, passed my IELTS (english language exam) and pursued my dream all the way to Glasgow to study Business with Events Management. 2 months after graduating, I’m sitting at my desk in the College – working in Marketing Team – Events department. Whoop whoop! First goal, achieved. Now I’m on track to grow my expertise in this area, and I genuinely enjoy every minute of it (well, most of the time).

But what I want to focus on today, is the things you experience in the environment you work in – open plan office and set hours. It was really something for someone who was used to student jobs – bars and boutiques – so lets get started.

  1. First day – you feel like you’re in the danger zone

    It’s weird enough to walk in to the room full of people who know each other, being the new member of staff. But to walk in to the room full of people who know each other, sit in front of their laptops, doing mystery things and don’t really acknowledge each other’s existence is pretty strange.
  2. You quickly develop a routine

    Regular 9am-5pm jobs certainly teach you how to create a routine around your day. Mine is setting up the alarm for 5.45am every morning – shower – getting dressed – getting a train at 6.49 – getting second train at 7.09 – and getting my breakfast at work at 8am!17453540_10212717809086444_900678957_o

  3. You need two separate wardrobes – one for work and one, well…not for work

    This point will probably not relate to everyone. Some people enjoy the smart/elegant outfits on the everyday occasions. I do sometimes as well, but certainly not enough to have enough smart clothes for 5 days a week. It was certainly fun to fill this gap, though!

     

  4. Open Space office makes you much more productive

    As weird as it felt at the beginning, I quickly got used to sitting next to people knowing that they can look in my laptop, and see my every step of work. That actually helps me to be more productive and prevents from getting distracted with sales on asos, or updates on my favourite travel blogs!

  5. You feel the urge to become healthier.

    That happened only when I started working in the office. I was always relatively healthy with my food (well, maybe not on my first year at the university when I stopped being vegetarian after 5 years and discovered bacon). When you are in the siting position most of the day, and your team has their own sweets cupboard (yep!), then you start thinking you need to find alternative ways to become healthier. Not something you think about when you’re running mental around the bar and come back home from work totally exhausted!17409724_10212715348784938_441592977_n

  6. You get creative with your lunches

    Again, this doesn’t apply to everyone. I like to cook so I make a ‘thing’ out of my lunch boxes for a full week. This relates to the point 6. I always prepare lunches for full 5 days on a Sunday afternoon. Some people get free lunches at work – but it still makes you celebrate this special moment of munching!

  7. Time can speed up and slow down (mainly seed up)

    We all know that, no matter if you work in the office or not. But the time issue at work can definitely define our stress levels.
  8. You get to know people in your office very fast.

    At the end of the day you spend 70% of your day with them. It’s mainly a good thing, as you can create friendships quite easily and effortlessly.

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9.Work makes you more self-confident

This is the most valuable point out of all of them. And I believe it to be true in most cases. Of course certain jobs can make us feel the opposite. But this is usually down to people we work with – in this case, you should probably rethink if you want to be there. But for most places, work can actually strongly contribute to our confidence levels. It can be stressful sometimes, but nothing makes us feel better than successfully finished, challenging task, delivering a great presentation, appreciation from your boss or just simply knowing that you’re an expert in what you do.

 

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10. Having nothing to do after work can be stressful!

This definitely does not apply to everyone. But if you’re similar to me – it will. After first week of work, coming home to find myself having nothing to do, no specific plans, started freaking my out. Obviously I could just chill and watch TV, but this just isn’t enough sometimes. Work is usually full of things you HAVE TO do, therefore you want to be able to come home and do things that you just WANT TO do. Because planning events is my job, planning my week and scheduling in all the activities, might just be the part of who I am!

One of my favourite ones are bikram yoga, dog walking and baking!

10 things you experience as a dogsitter

This is my first post on my brand new blog I’ve started while seating on a couch with two lovely staffies we look after this weekend. I thought to myself that this is the perfect way to set it off! By appreciating the creatures that have filled my life with joy and excitement for the past few months. I have started dog-sitting business with my boyfriend in summer 2016 and we’ve not stopped till today. It’s definitely kept us on our feet 24/7 but also, brought loads of fun memories to our lives!

Since I started working full time in October, my part in the doggy business became limited to evenings and weekends, but I still try to contribute to helping Corey (boyfriend, as you can guess) as much as I can. I’ve started online Dog Training Course to better understand the psychology and research behind certain canine behaviours which certainly helped in better communication with our doggy visitors.

I wanted to show the appreciation of these gorgeous creatures by writing a list of my experiences of the past few months of being involved with dogs. So if you’re thinking of becoming a dog-sitter or if you’re simply interested in how this job looks like – check out the list 🙂

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  1. Main thing is to focus on the attention to every dog that comes through the door! 

    Dogs coming to our home can sometimes be nervous about being left behind by their owner in this new environment. It is crucial for us to focus on giving them all the attention in the world (and a treat or two) to make sure they know we are their friends, and they’ll have a great time with us. At the end of the day – it’s their holiday too!

  2.  Dogs need time to relax in a new place 

    That relates to the previous point – we try to keep dogs occupied all the time, to help them with the separation issues. Most dogs need about one or two days to completely relax and get used to being in a new place.IMG_2608

  3. Each dog requires personal approach

    That’s probably one of the best things you encounter as a dog sitter. Dogs are like humans in terms of personalities – they are all very different to one another! Some of them are introverts (we looked after the cross once, who was found by their owners in the cave in Hong Kong as a puppy – they decided to adopt her and she’s been with them for 10 years now. She’s lovely, but there is a reason why we gave her a nickname ‘Ghost dog’…) and extroverts (can’t get enough of staffies!).

  4. They’ll always try to steal your food 

    No matter how many treats they get, most dogs are on the hunt for food 24/7. Me and Corey have a system of watching out for our food. If one of us needs to get a drink, the other one is guarding. Sometimes even that doesn’t work!17409579_10212689139169714_2102804816_n

  5. You need to be creative with play time 

    Some dogs are quite bored with their toys, or for some reason don’t want to play with them here, so we had to come up with out own games. Our favourite one is hide and seek. If you stand behind the door and don’t move – you can play this game for hours. I also go as far as baking dog friendly cupcakes!17393038_10212689169850481_2076631366_n

  6.  At some point, one of them will shit on your carpet 

    That’s just the way it is, guys. So deal with it.

  7. Weekend mornings are the best thing ever 

    My favourite thing about the dogs is when they jump around you all happy when you call their name in the morning. Few minutes of snuggles and walk time!17393006_10212689186050886_980666699_n

  8. Walks – sometimes great experience, sometimes just a duty 

    As everything that ‘has to be done’ it’s not always great fun. On a horrible day (and there’s a lot of them in Scotland) it’s not easy to force yourself to go outside, but otherwise, you will have to go back to the point 6. However when you pick up the lead and you see the excitement the doggies are spreading around – you don’t mind!IMG_2670

  9. Dogs learn your behaviours faster than you learn theirs 

    That’s true. All dogs we had so far learned the pattern of our lifestyles way faster than we figured out anything about theirs! After the first day of me getting up at 5am during the week for work, they know this is not the time to care – because they wont get food or walk until  Corey gets up around 9am.

  10. Seeing dogs reunited with their owners is the most beautiful experience! 

    That’s when you see the real true love between the doggies and their owners. It’s amazing how dogs can smell their owners even when they’re just coming up in the lift! It’s such a heart warming picture when you see how deeply attached dogs can be to their owners and what a strong bound they can build together!17350918_10212689274773104_694052230_n